How To BREAK Your BAD HABITS Today - Try It & See Results _ Jay Shetty
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| How To BREAK Your BAD HABITS Today - Try It & See Results _ Jay Shetty |
How many of you feel like your mind is always on? Like you're worrying about the past or you're anxious about the future? How many of you feel like your mind controls you? If you said yes to any of those questions I want you to stay tuned as I share this concept from my book, think like a monk.
Hey, everyone, my name is Jay Shetty. . Now I know you've experienced this, you wake up in the morning, ready to start the day early. But your mind makes you press that snooze button, you decide you're going to be really, really healthy. But your mind makes you break that promise and then makes you feel guilty for afterwards. Or the best yet your mind has focused on preparing for this interview, where it reminds you of all of your flaws, mistakes and rejections just before you walk inside. How many of you have experienced any of these things before? So let me tell you a personal story.
I remember once trying to give up chocolate fudge cake. Now I know that sounds crazy. But for those of you who know me, well, you know that I have a massive sweet tooth. And I absolutely love chocolate cake. So this was already going to be difficult. But now as soon as I made that commitment, every time I walked past a bakery or a cake shop, I literally felt like that cake was staring at me. And those voices in my head that said, buy me now eat me. I mean, I know I sound psycho right now. But it's true, right? We have that feeling. As soon as you make that commitment to yourself, that you're gonna have a healthy diet, you're going to start working out whatever it may be, we're triggered almost in the opposite direction, by our own mind. How does that happen? Why does it happen? And how do we overcome it is what I want to share with you today. To explain this, we first have to understand the difference between the monkey mind which we're talking about right now. And the monk mind. So the monkey mind is always jumping from branch to branch.
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| Never think hard about past, it brings Tears |
It's always looking for the next pleasure or that instant gratification. It's always looking for the short term when it's the part of us that complains, compares and criticizes, but the monk mind, the monk mind is focused on the root of the issue. The monk mind is focused on discipline and long term gain. Instead of being comparing complaining and criticizing the monk mind is calm, composed, collaborative, caring, and compassionate. So if we want to make that transformation, and that switch, we have to understand how the mind works. And I'm going to show you how the Bhagavad Gita talks about this conversation that we all experience in our minds between the mind and the intelligence. Now, how many times have you ever woke up in the morning and had that conversation in your head? There's one voice that says, Go back to sleep, you've had a really tough week, you've been working so hard. And there's another voice that says this is going to be the start of a great week, you've had enough rest now's the time to get up. And you're going to perform at the highest level. This is a conversation between the mind and the intelligence. The mind is the monkey mind. The intelligence is the monk mind. The monkey mind just wants to sleep, be lazy, lethargic, and not focus on getting proper rest. You probably were forced by that monkey mind to stay up the night before and watch a show to 2am.
Anyway, the monk mind wants you to have a proactive start to the day, proactive start the week. So here's what's happening. We have five senses sight, smell, touch, taste, and hearing. Now all of these have different triggers. So if we think about food, you see good food, right? Or let's say you see junk food, you smell that junk food. You know what that junk food tastes like? You don't hear junk food, I don't think anyway. And as soon as that happens, there's a response that goes straight to your mind. Now what happens in your mind, and as you can see, this is a very accurate drawing of what your mind really looks like inside. But this area of your mind, it reminds you of your past experiences you've had. So when you see those fries, you smell those fries, you see those fries, you touch those fries, it sends a response to your mind, your mind knows what those fries tastes like.
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| Live this moment with a smile , It brings Cheers |
It remembers the last time you had them and how good they felt. And straightaway goes, yes, let's have them. As the mind goes, sure. Let's go and plan and create. And now we have those. Now we start to eat that. And that is a recurring habit and cycle in our life. It happens from everything from food that's bad for us to toxic relationships through to making bad career decisions. The simple act of reminding ourselves of a positive experience with someone or something allows us to continue that repetition. But now we all know this. We all know that discipline is a core pillar in success. We all know that being able to resist the urges of the mind can help us be more focused. We don't want to just be carried away procrastinating and overthinking all day. We also don't want to live in a place where we just keep feeding our bodies and minds with stuff. That's
Not good for it, I know that you feel that I know. That's why you're here. And so there's one key thing that makes a difference. Now give me a moment while I draw this for you, it's pretty much a work of art. So I need some privacy just to get this right.
So now, as you can see, the God is the monk mind, the intelligence, the monkey mind that stands in between the senses, and the mind. So now, for most of us, our monkey mind is asleep, our God is absolutely asleep, or has been lazy for a while, and therefore we've been in this recurring pattern. But this now creates a new conversation. So now every time there's something that you see that you want, or smell, or touch, or taste or hear, it first goes to the God. And the God may say, Well, by the way, you just made a commitment last week that you want to stay off eating sugar, you just made a commitment last week that you were going to work out three days a week, right?
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| People respect the money not the person |
I'm going to make sure that you stick to that. So even though your eyes are saying that bed looks more comfy than that benchpress, we are going to go back and now it stops you from having that direct conversation with your mind, which is always looking for that monkey mind and the easy way out. So you've now added a level of conversation that's stronger. But you're like, BJ, I mean, you know, is that willpower? Is that internal strength? Where does that God? Where does that monkey mind come from? So the monkey mind comes from the following principles.
So the way we strengthen the monk mind and the god inside our minds, so that we don't just give in to the temptations and the urges of the mind is through the four R's format. So these four R's have to be done in order. And when they're executed, effectively, you will know that your God and your monk mind is getting stronger. The first R is reason, you need a really powerful reason for why you're making this new change in your life. If you don't have a deep, profound reason in your life, it will be really, really difficult. I'll give you an example. If someone says that they want to quit drinking alcohol, just because they want to do it. It's different from someone saying, I want to quit drinking alcohol, because I want to save my family. I want to keep my family together. And this habit is ruining our interactions. And so I really want to kick this habit. Notice the difference in reason, right? Even if we want to learn something, it's like, oh, I want to learn to play an instrument, why aren't just because I feel like it or I want to learn to play an instrument because I want to propose by playing the piano. Notice the depth of reason. Reason is the first art that's needed to strengthen the God.
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| "People do not like good thoughts they like good looks" |
So reason, putting a check next to reason. The second r that we need in our life, is research. Your reason is given more ammunition and depth through good research. What I mean by that is you may pick up the phone to a coach, you may speak to someone who's already mastered that habit. You may focus on reading about books and watching documentaries and listen to podcasts about that subject. The more you absorb information, the more likely you are to create transformation. Remember that the more you absorb information, the more you're likely to create transformation, because now you have so much research that is consistently convincing the God to help convince the senses every time you want something or see something or chase something the God can say.
Do you remember when we read that study? Do you remember when we watch that documentary? Do you remember when you spoke to that coach, and all of a sudden you have so much more reasoning power when you research so the second step is researching the best way of books, podcasts and people write books, podcasts, and people are the best forms of research. When you want to create a habit change in your life.
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| It is never too late to be what you might have been |
Make sure that what you listen to what you read and what you speak about is about the subject you're trying to grow in. When you immerse yourself in that way, you will see maximum impact in your life. So the second is research.
The third R is repetition, repetition. If we don't consistently make this a priority in our life, it's just not going to happen. We have to repeat that action. So we have to prioritize around. And this is something I say often, right, if you really want to make something a priority in your life, it has to be a small step, and a big priority. Often, what we try and do is we try and change every area of our life. And then naturally, nothing changes. But the better thing to do is choose one area and make it your top priority. So if you want to start going to the gym, make that the one big thing you're going to achieve that day, and set a time that you can actually make it don't set it at an awkward time,
I know someone who literally used to struggle working out. So instead of that, what she would do is when she would roll off the bed, she would have her yoga mat, and all of her gym equipment laid out right near a bed. So she had no excuse, right, it was the first thing she saw in the morning. And so she can naturally start exercising straightaway. That also is true for not triggering the senses. Right repetition also includes if you're trying to stay up sugar, if you just don't have any sugar items in your closet, or in your cupboard or in the fridge, then there's no chance that you're going to have it.
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| What matters to me most is how I live |
So you can actually save yourself by removing it from the trigger of the senses. So that is repetition. The fourth is responsibility, right? You want to be able to do this with someone you want to feel like you're growing with someone. That's why having a tribe or community or a group of people that are trying to aim for the same thing means you're more likely to get that, you know, if you're trying to start a new habit like cycling more if you're cycling with a group of people.
Now Guess what, you're not just relying on your motivation, you're relying on 10 other people to motivate you as well. If you're going to the gym with a friend, responsibility and accountability makes you more likely to get to your destination. And there's a fifth or actually that I just thought of and it's called reward.
You want to make sure that in any habit change, there is some reward. And a reward is making sure you recognize what amazing growth you're making you taking a moment See, look how far I've come. Because our mind again tricks us and always goes Look how far you have to go. It's really important that you remind yourself of how far you've come how much you've grown, the difference you've made. So the fifth and final is reward.
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Let us sacrifice our today so that our children can have a better tomorrow. |
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